Giving this a "like" is one of those horribly modern and completely inadequate responses to this. I am just so lucky and grateful to destiny that I never had to go through that sort of thing (whatever faults or inadequacies one can always find in parents). Looking forward to Mr Andersen's book. (And by 'Mr Andersen' I do of course mean Brett and not his father.)
I've read all your articles and watched all your videos. I definitely wasn't expecting something like this after your absence here. I gotta say this is one of the best possible way you could make your comeback here. It's crazy to me to think that someone with the intellectual power to built an entire worldview had lived with the feeling of inferiority. Your intellectual work it's the best possible response to that. I related to a lot of what you said and we are about the same age, so I just want to encourage you to keep this great work. Just a few minutes after you posted this article your massage already crossed the ocean and hit very deep in someone who doesn't even share the same culture as you. Thank you so much for this. And sorry for the loss of your grandmother.
I can relate as I have someone like this in my family. Not my Dad however. My Dad is a pretty solid guy. Beer, women, and sports are cool. But not when they become crutches. And in the case of the family member I’m referring to, I’m adding gambling to that list. Nothing is ever his fault, all of his short comings are somehow the result of everyone else around him. He’s incredibly self-righteous and patronizing. And is unable to control his emotions. The last man is a fitting description.
Your dad never grew up. And yes, that was his fault. It’s a decision no one else can do anything about, except what you did. He’s not capable of understanding any of it, because that’s part of his refusal. Just an observation from the bleacher seats.
Thanks for sharing. I've seen amongst some friends how their father's reckless, stupid and pathetic behaviour ultimately spilled over onto them, causing disaster to themselves and their own families. Dynamics that seem to spillover like champagne towers from one level to the next. Admirable that you've risen above it and continue to share excellent work (always keen to read more!)
Steve Biddulph shares a lot of wisdom about fathers in his book Manhood which might be of interest to others. Joseph Campbell too, as ever, via the myths, about reconciliation with the father. After all, he is in you.
Giving this a "like" is one of those horribly modern and completely inadequate responses to this. I am just so lucky and grateful to destiny that I never had to go through that sort of thing (whatever faults or inadequacies one can always find in parents). Looking forward to Mr Andersen's book. (And by 'Mr Andersen' I do of course mean Brett and not his father.)
I've read all your articles and watched all your videos. I definitely wasn't expecting something like this after your absence here. I gotta say this is one of the best possible way you could make your comeback here. It's crazy to me to think that someone with the intellectual power to built an entire worldview had lived with the feeling of inferiority. Your intellectual work it's the best possible response to that. I related to a lot of what you said and we are about the same age, so I just want to encourage you to keep this great work. Just a few minutes after you posted this article your massage already crossed the ocean and hit very deep in someone who doesn't even share the same culture as you. Thank you so much for this. And sorry for the loss of your grandmother.
Thank you, Raul. Hopefully I'll get to publish here more often this year.
I can relate as I have someone like this in my family. Not my Dad however. My Dad is a pretty solid guy. Beer, women, and sports are cool. But not when they become crutches. And in the case of the family member I’m referring to, I’m adding gambling to that list. Nothing is ever his fault, all of his short comings are somehow the result of everyone else around him. He’s incredibly self-righteous and patronizing. And is unable to control his emotions. The last man is a fitting description.
Your dad never grew up. And yes, that was his fault. It’s a decision no one else can do anything about, except what you did. He’s not capable of understanding any of it, because that’s part of his refusal. Just an observation from the bleacher seats.
Fucking hell that last line hit me.
"I’ve learned a lot from my dad."
I really can relate.
Thanks for writing this.
Thanks for sharing. I've seen amongst some friends how their father's reckless, stupid and pathetic behaviour ultimately spilled over onto them, causing disaster to themselves and their own families. Dynamics that seem to spillover like champagne towers from one level to the next. Admirable that you've risen above it and continue to share excellent work (always keen to read more!)
Steve Biddulph shares a lot of wisdom about fathers in his book Manhood which might be of interest to others. Joseph Campbell too, as ever, via the myths, about reconciliation with the father. After all, he is in you.